Confessions of a Vintage Social Media Manager – How I Work in an Industry I Don’t Fully Trust

I’ve been working in social media long enough to call myself vintage. Not “retro cool” vintage — more like the sort of thing you find at the back of the shed and wonder, does this still work? Almost 20 years in, I’ve seen social media grow from the scrappy, exciting Wild West to the algorithmic slot machine it is today.

And here’s the truth: I’m not sure I like what it’s become. In fact, I worry about what it’s doing to our kids.

Back in the early days, social media was about connection and curiosity. You could post something weird, messy, and unpolished, and people responded because they liked you. Now? We’ve optimised everything for clicks, likes, and outrage. (How’s my blog post title…) And the kids, with their developing brains and fragile sense of self, are getting the worst of it.

What’s gone wrong

Algorithms reward extremes
It’s not enough to be good anymore — you have to be shocking, controversial, or flawless. That’s what the algorithm boosts, because it keeps people on the app.

Addictive by design
The infinite scroll, the notifications, the “just one more swipe” — all carefully engineered dopamine hits. Adults can barely manage it; kids don’t stand a chance.

Warped self-image
When you’re 14 and your feed is full of influencers with perfect skin, perfect teeth, perfect lives… you start to believe you’re falling short. And those feelings of “not enough” are incredibly profitable for advertisers.

No mental off-switch
We used to get bored. We used to stare out the window on bus rides. Now, every spare second gets swallowed by a glowing rectangle.

The double bind for people like me

Here’s where it gets uncomfortable: I still work in this industry. I still help brands use these very platforms to sell products and build audiences. I know how to make posts that grab attention — and I know the psychological levers that make them work.

It’s like being a chef who secretly worries that half the menu is bad for you. You still need to keep the restaurant running, but you wish more people ordered the salad.

How I make peace with it

I can’t fix the entire attention economy, but I can choose how I work within it. My own ground rules look something like this:

1. Value over vanity
If a post doesn’t make someone’s life better — even in a small way — it’s not worth making. “Better” can mean helpful, funny, inspiring, or thought-provoking. Empty calorie content just feeds the machine.

2. Truth over polish
Audiences respond to authenticity. I’d rather post something slightly scrappy but honest than something flawless and soulless. That’s not just better for the audience — it’s better for my sanity.

3. Mindful metrics
I track engagement, sure. But I also pay attention to the comments, the tone, and whether the conversation feels healthy. A post with fewer likes but a richer discussion is still a win.

4. Ethical targeting
I avoid content strategies that prey on insecurities, fear, or fake urgency — especially when the audience skews young. If you wouldn’t say it to a teenager’s face, don’t put it in an ad.

5. Digital well-being advocacy
If you have an audience, you have influence. Sprinkling in tips about screen time, online safety, or the hidden mechanics of social media can plant seeds of awareness.

Finding better spaces

Not all online spaces are created equal. The big platforms are noisy, but smaller, intentional communities can be amazing — niche forums, moderated Discord groups, hobby-focused Facebook groups, or even offline meet-ups. The more we point people towards healthier spaces, the less power the worst algorithms have over us.

A challenge to my fellow “vintage” social media folks

If you’ve been around long enough to remember when social media was better, help make it better again. We can’t dismantle the machine, but we can choose how we use it, what we create, and what we reward.

And maybe, just maybe, if enough of us do that, we’ll raise a generation who see social media for what it can be — a tool for connection — not the distorted mirror it’s become.

If you want to go fast, play the algorithm’s game.
If you want to go far, play for people’s trust.
And trust is still the best metric we have.

Are the Sony WH-1000XM6 good?

Well, ya know what…

I can’t really believe I’m about to say this, but, aside from being one of the most uncomfortable pairs of over ear headphones I’ve ever owned, aside from showing every single finger print, aside from having a really picky multi-point bluetooth system….


The XM6 headphones sitting, rotated flat, on my desk…

They sound great.

I’ve had the XM6 for a couple of months now, and as a glasses wearer, as a desk worker who wears headphones for a lot of the day, I can uncomfortably say that these are some of the most uncomfortable headphones I’ve had the pleasure of owning. After some testing, I think I know why this is - with the XM6, Sony moved back towards the more flat-foldable style of over ear headphones, the cups independently rotate sideways to sit flat in the carry case (Hey, the carry case is great)

That’s great until you start to notice that one ear cup, while wearing, has slightly rotated inwards or outwards and is sitting slightly funny on your head - then the in ear / on ear pain starts… It doesn’t take long, maybe half hour?

See that little sticky-outie bit in the ear cup? That’s an in-ear punishment device

Now, I’m not saying these are bad headphones, but I have found myself switching back to my broken but still perfectly usable and very comfortable Sony XM3’s (I’ve had every version of the XM series, and I think the 3 are the pinnacle of sound + comfort for people that use them alllll day….

Do you have a pair of over-ear headphones that you love? let me know in the comments…



Hide all this Ai crap - How's your social media workin' out?

I guess I’m pretty old when it comes to social media managers… I understand an audience, I can spot a scam at some distance, I know if your followers are bots or if they’re genuine, etc… Seen it all… All that said, the new age of ‘Ai Everything’ is going to be a tricky one!

Can you spot Ai? (Can you?)

A lot of people can, but a lot of people can’t! I know I’ve been caught out a couple of times, but you have to go with common sense - is that unicorn real? would a lion drink coffee? Despite you nodding your head and yelling at the screen “I KNOW WHATS AI YOU MORON” there are so so soooo many people that don’t - Don’t get me wrong, there is absolutely a place for Ai (or what people call Ai) but including it in every marketing pitch, every app, its all a bit much, eh?

Good Ai? Ai for Good?

In addition to making memes and Photographers are using these large language models for stuff that helps them, I’ve sorted a quick list below at some of the top suggested uses as a photographer… Do you have any to add?

Editing & Retouching: AI-powered tools like Lightroom, Luminar, and Photoshop use machine learning to automate tasks like skin smoothing, background removal, sky replacement, and color correction—saving hours of manual work.

  1. Culling & Organization: AI can analyze large photo sets to pick the best shots based on facial expressions, focus, composition, and even client preferences, making the selection process much faster.

  2. Keywording & Metadata Tagging: AI can auto-generate relevant keywords and tags for photos, which is especially useful for stock photographers and digital asset management.

  3. Creative Assistance: AI can generate mood boards, suggest composition improvements, or even create realistic photo composites or virtual backgrounds based on prompts.

  4. Client Communication & Marketing: AI chatbots, email tools, and social media schedulers help photographers automate client interactions, generate captions, and plan posts—freeing up time to focus on shooting.

But is it all getting out of hand?

I’m not sure if I’ve relayed the story told to me by my electrician back in the London days… He was convinced that, as devices became smarter, that they would all realise they were connected via the power grid, start talking on their own little (massive) iOt network and then rise up against humanity (or whatever is left of humanity)

I mean, crazy right? Possible? Who Knows…

Can you spot Ai in use and are you using it in your daily life? Leave a comment and let me know.



From t’internet… (here)

Linkin Park - What Once Was Is No Longer

Emily isn’t Chester, we get it. Like it or don’t, these are the cards we’ve been dealt.

For those of you that were there, 2009 Sonisphere was something quite spectacular.

Watch the livestream of the new lineup here… runs for 1.21.00

https://www.youtube.com/live/IL1nlWOciL0?si=o-2gUQbA_Uesf1D6